There was this movie I was watching about a month ago where the protagonist in pursuit of the ‘villain’, disturbs the peace prevalent on the roads, drives/shoots/runs so eccentrically that he put many lives in danger which in normal circumstances would provoke an autodriver to crane his neck out and ask him
” Vuttaanda Sollitu vantiya da, saavugraaghi” (“did you inform the people at home… you death customer”)…
He causes vehicles on the road to crash against each other, puts the bystanders and common people at risk. This might have caused even more life loss than if the villain was left alone. Finally the villain stops and holds a woman hostage…. The camera zooms into the hero who shoots the villain right in between his eyes and then spouts this oft repeated dialogue in Indian cinema….
“Pengalkum Kuzhandhaigalkum Unnum Aaga vidamaaten” (“I wouldn’t allow anything to happen to women and children”)
Later that night I was going through some random news channel which was flashing the following breaking news
“23 killed including 7 women and children”
A ‘hero’ would damage property, shoot at people randomly, even bring the city to a standstill but wouldn’t harm women and children triggering crowd support in the cinema halls… The media in every form puts more emphasis on the life of women and children… I thought it was wrong…. very wrong…..
One of the reasons is the fact that such emphasis creates an aura of vulnerability around women. It kindles the urge of a man to act as the protector and hence some men think they have the upper hand. The society also does its part by referring to the women as the ‘weaker’ sex and the like. It popularizes the blasphemous theory that a ‘hero’ would come to save the day and ‘modesty’ of the woman. The society needn’t protect any woman from danger. The duty lies in it creating a society in which the woman feels independent and safe on her own…
Only a person in coma or dead or living under a rock would not have known the horrendous event that happened last month that unified the voice that mattered- The commoners.
My views would not make it to the ‘breaking-news’ section of any of the news channels…… But who cares… The views and sound-bytes from ‘important’ people that make the cut give heavy competition to programs like ‘Comedy Circus’ or ‘Lollu Sabha’.
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1) Women must dress properly : Yeah right…. Baby Falak… Remember??? Rape was never about the dress and never will be. Even if a woman is ‘provocatively’ dressed it doesn’t mean she wants you to go touch her. Lots of men have long forgotten about chivalry. It is not just about opening the door for a woman or paying the restaurant bill, it is about being gallant, brave and most importantly honourable. As long as certain ‘men’ think from between the legs, a woman’s dress is probably the lamest excuse for any act against them
2) ‘India not Bharat’: The incident that broke the resilience of the commoners happened in ‘India’ but the factors that stretched it to its limit have been happening across the nation irrespective of the modernisation. If there was a Jessica, so was a Bhanwari Devi… the delay in the unification of Indians was also because of this ‘divide’ between India and Bharat orchestrated by people who use this for their personal benefits. Honour killings and atrocities meted out to people because of their caste happens across the nation transcending this divide…
3) Never heard about rape of a ‘respected’ lady : WTF???? #facepalm… This ‘respect’ factor is the one which prevents women from coming out in the open to ensure the perpetrators are behind bars. She is ostracized from the society, sometimes shunned by her family who at times even decide that the only way out of this is to get married to the ‘man’ who ‘spoilt’ her. #megafacepalm . . . It is high time people realise that she is not the one to be blamed and rape is not a disgrace to the woman but the ‘man’ who does it… the ‘purity’ of the woman is still in place and an act of violence meted out to her doesn’t make her ‘disrespectful’
4) Dented and Painted: Who gives people the right to judge anything and everything a woman does.
- She smiles at a guy- She can be’ pataofied’…
- She smiles longer- She is a Slut…
- She dresses provocatively- She has to be taught a ‘lesson’
- She puts on make-up: She wants her five minutes of fame
- She drinks/smokes/clubs : Degradation of Indian Ethics… Yeah and when a man does all this he is upholding the tradition and the world claps in unison
- A girl is born : every step is judged
People who stop looking at the cause and start looking at the protesters are the ones that have to be seriously judged
5) Saraswati Mantra/Begged for mercy/Bhaiyya: It cant get worse than this…. “ungalellaa yen da tsunami thookala”
There were also various comments and views about why only this incident has garnered so much media attention when there are even worse cases happening in other parts across Bharat.
I personally feel that we must improve the level of awareness throughout the nation and channelize the anger properly instead of slowly turning it into a regional problem… Use this media attention and make use of it in the best way possible rather than pointing fingers at previous apathy…
I am not the perfect man… I ‘sight’ girls… I see them from the corner of my eye while walking or riding my bike… I have even many a time judged a book by its cover… but I have always known where to draw a line. I know the difference between appreciating and objectifying women and it is only because of my upbringing and the people I grew up with. Bringing about a change in the laws and punishment should happen sooner rather than later, but taking immediate steps to provide a sense of security in every citizen’s heart is of paramount importance. The society must first bring about a change from within without waiting for the government which could only muster a ‘theek hai’ after a week of dissent and protests. The biggest failure of our nation according to me is that no citizen is now walking on the roads of India/Bharat/Hindustan without any doubts of his/her wellbeing. Once that fear is removed, we can finally boast about being the epitome of culture and morality. This will not happen overnight, maybe not even in this generation… but it has to start somewhere and it has to start now… Let us sow the seeds of transformation which will have to grow into something substantial in the years to come and fervently hope that violence against women or rather anyone becomes as rare and virtually non-existent as Electricity in Tamilnadu.
P.S. Getting rid of porn is not a solution, Proper sex education certainly is one…